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5 Stoic Quotes That Broke My People-Pleasing Patterns Forever

7/2/2025

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How ancient wisdom from a Roman Emperor became my blueprint for breaking free from the exhausting cycle of living for others' approval


When Ancient Wisdom Meets Modern Struggle

It's absolutely wild that a Roman Emperor from 1,800 years ago was able to see people-pleasing so clearly and call it out in a way that still rings true today... which honestly kind of sucks.

But I'm not the only one who's discovered this. Marcus Aurelius's Meditations remains one of the most-read philosophy books today because his ancient wisdom connects so powerfully with modern struggles. The timeless nature of people-pleasing and self-worth issues proves that this battle isn't new—and neither are the solutions.

These 5 quotes that Marcus Aurelius wrote in his private journal completely changed how I handle other people's opinions. If you're exhausted from constantly seeking approval, I want you to experience the same freedom I've found.

Why a Roman Emperor Understood People-Pleasing Better Than Modern Self-Help

Hi, fellow goddesses. Today we're exploring how Marcus Aurelius—one of the ultimate authorities on handling people and pressure (he literally ruled 60 million people)—can help free you from people-pleasing and help you see the inherent value you already possess.

These aren't feel-good quotes. They're battlefield-tested strategies from someone who couldn't afford to please people. Even though they were written nearly two millennia ago, they still ring true—at least they do for me.

By the end of this post, you'll have 5 practical tools that work in real-world situations.

My Journey from Drowning in Others' Opinions to Ancient Wisdom

If you've been following my content, you know I've struggled with people-pleasing and still do from time to time. If you're reading this, I assume you know that uncomfortable feeling of having your body or mind do something you don't truly want, all in the name of making someone else happy. You know how draining it is to always put others before yourself (excluding your dependents, obviously).

I was drowning in thoughts about how I needed to do this or that so people would like me, and then I would finally be of some value. That I would matter. That my life was worthy.

But by living in that fear and exhaustion, I slowly began to lose connection to who I truly was. I was fading away while morphing into some weird amalgamation of 20 different people's idea of what "perfect" was—which was often contradictory and caused chaos within me.

On my journey of reclaiming myself, I started reading philosophy and came across Marcus Aurelius and his books. As I read more, I realized I was living the exact same struggle as someone 1,800 years ago—which meant the solution might be timeless too. Couldn't hurt to test it out, right?

Why Traditional People-Pleasing Advice Falls Short

A lot of the advice floating around simply doesn't work—or at least didn't work for me. I've tried approaches like:
  • Surface-level "just say no" advice that left me feeling terrible and wanting to throw up with every disappointed face and endless "why not?" questions. I couldn't stick with it because it didn't heal the root cause of my people-pleasing, and I would usually give in after the second or third "are you sure?"
  • Therapy approaches that focus only on childhood without practical tools for handling what you went through while also living right now. Only focusing on the past made me feel like I was still there when I desperately needed help here and now. (Not saying that healing past trauma isn't amazing, but just focusing on that doesn't always help in current situations.)
  • Self-help that ignores the intelligent, driven nature of people-pleasers and guilts you into thinking you just need to be stronger. If you're an amazing people-pleaser, then you hold incredible self-control skills and can read people like no other. Shame is often pinned on people-pleasers that makes you feel worse.

Most advice treats people-pleasing like a weakness when it's actually misdirected strength. No one talks about the amount of strength and perseverance it takes to people-please for days, to multiple people.

Your heart is in the right place, but your mindset needs redirecting. We don't need to be fixed—we simply need to be redirected.

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The Frosting That Changed Everything: My People-Pleasing Wake-Up Call

6/29/2025

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The Moment Everything Changed

I knew I was in deep when the thought of declining to make frosting for the third time caused my body to feel like it was going to die. Blood filled my ears, haze covered my eyes, and this simple little situation sent me spiraling into a week-long overthinking marathon.

That weekend became the biggest catapult for my people-pleasing healing journey—and if you're reading this, chances are you recognize yourself in this story too.

The Problem: Living in Survival Mode

Let me set the scene. Whenever I was around other people, my mind went completely blank (it still does sometimes), and my only way of responding was by future-predicting possible problems and making plans to fix them before anything bad could happen.

I said yes to whatever was asked of me without considering:
  • If I had the time or energy
  • Whether I actually wanted to do it
  • How it would make me feel
  • The possible consequences

I only knew one thing: when I made others happy, I found relief. Not joy, happiness, or fulfillment—just relief.

The Weekend That Broke Me

During a long weekend at my then-boyfriend's friend's house, I fell into my usual pattern of saying yes to everything asked of me. As the weekend progressed, I became increasingly exhausted from constantly assessing the "right" way to talk, stand, sit, smile, and simply exist.

When I was asked to make a very specific, time-consuming frosting for one friend's party, I agreed. Since I'd never made this type of frosting before, I had to make a tester first—everyone urged me to do this too. When the tester turned out great, I figured we could use it since it was the night before the party.

But instead, it was consumed quickly, and I was promptly told to make another one the morning of the party.

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Why Meeting Your Dark Side Is Self-Love (Inner Child Edition)

6/25/2025

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You've been told to love yourself, but what about the parts of you that feel unlovable?

The rage that burns when someone dismisses you. The jealousy that claws at your chest when you see others succeed. The desperate need for approval that makes you cringe at your own neediness.

What about those parts?

Here's what nobody tells you about self-love: it's not about becoming someone else. It's about falling in love with who you already are—shadows and all.

For years, I thought healing meant eliminating my "dark" side. I meditated my anger away, journaled my jealousy into submission, and affirmations-ed my way out of every uncomfortable emotion. I became a walking Instagram quote, spiritually bypassing my way to what I thought was enlightenment.

But my shadow self was getting louder.

She showed up as road rage during my morning commute while listening to calming music. She whispered cruel thoughts about other’s success while I practiced gratitude. She made me say yes when I meant no, then resent everyone for taking advantage of my "kindness."

The more I tried to love and light my way to healing, the more my inner child screamed from the basement of my psyche.

Then I discovered something that changed everything: Carl Jung's research shows that what we reject in ourselves becomes our greatest source of self-sabotage. The parts of ourselves we hide don't disappear—they run our lives from the shadows.

Your anger isn't evil. Your jealousy isn't shameful. Your neediness isn't pathetic.
These are your inner child's survival mechanisms, wearing scary masks to protect the parts of you that felt unsafe to express.

What if meeting your dark side isn't the opposite of self-love—what if it is self-love?
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What if the healing you've been searching for isn't about becoming perfect, but about becoming whole?

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Why Smart Women Keep Getting in Their Own Way

6/22/2025

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You have two degrees, a strategic mind, and/or a vision for your life—so why do you feel like you're constantly fighting yourself?

There you are at 11 PM, scrolling through your phone instead of working on that project that could change everything. You know exactly what you need to do. You've researched it, planned it, color-coded it in three different planners. Yet here you are, choosing Netflix over your dreams again.

The frustration burns in your chest because you're not lazy. You're not lacking intelligence or capability. You solve complex problems at work, people come to you for advice. So why can't you figure out how to get out of your own way?

Here's what no one tells you: majority of high-achieving women report feeling like their own biggest obstacle. You're not broken. You're not uniquely flawed. You're experiencing what happens when a brilliant mind meets an unhealed nervous system.

I used to believe that if I could just think my way through every scenario, map out every possible outcome, and create the perfect plan, I could avoid failure and pain. I spent years turning my intelligence into a fortress, protecting myself from vulnerability by staying in the planning phase forever.

But here's the truth that changed everything: Your brilliant mind isn't the problem—it's how you're using it as a shield against the very growth you crave.

Today, we're going to explore why intelligent women self-sabotage, decode the psychology behind it, and introduce you to a feminine approach that transforms overthinking into embodied action.

​By the end of this guide, you'll understand how to align your intelligence with your highest potential instead of letting it keep you small.


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How To Build Habits That Match Your Feminine Frequency

6/18/2025

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You've been trying to embody soft power by copying what worked for her—but your nervous system keeps rejecting it like a bad organ transplant.

You downloaded the 5 AM morning routine. You bought the silk pillowcases and fancy skincare. You tried the bubble baths and journaling prompts that every feminine energy coach swears by.

But something feels... off.

You're going through the motions of "soft girl energy" while your soul is screaming that this isn't you. Your body feels tight when you force yourself into routines that look good on Instagram but drain your actual energy and broke. You end up more disconnected from your power, not closer to it.

Here's what nobody tells you about feminine energy work: Your soft power is like your fingerprint—completely unique and impossible to replicate.

While you've been trying to squeeze yourself into someone else's definition of femininity, your authentic feminine frequency has been waiting patiently for you to remember that she doesn't need to be fixed, formatted, or made more palatable.

She just needs to be honored.

In this guide, you're going to discover how to create habits that actually amplify your natural feminine energy instead of masking it. We're talking about a custom approach that makes you feel more like yourself, not less. More connected, not more performed.

Because the woman you're becoming doesn't need another routine template—she needs permission to design her own.

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How To Disappoint People And Feel Powerful Doing It - The Good Girl Detox

6/15/2025

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You've been taught that your worth lives in other people's approval—and it's slowly killing the woman you're meant to become.

Here's the brutal truth no one wants to tell you: that gnawing exhaustion you feel?

That constant background anxiety?


That voice in your head that sounds suspiciously like everyone else but you?


It's not stress. It's not hormones. It's not "just life."


It's the slow suffocation of your authentic self.


I remember the exact moment I realized my "goodness" was actually elaborate self-abandonment. I was sitting in my car after another soul-crushing family dinner where I'd nodded along to opinions that made my skin crawl, laughed at jokes that weren't funny, and agreed to plans I absolutely didn't want to make.


I caught my reflection in the rearview mirror and didn't recognize the woman staring back at me.


She looked… empty. Hollow. Like someone had scooped out her center and replaced it with a smile.


That woman was me. And if you're reading this with that familiar ache in your chest—that feeling of being a stranger in your own life—that woman might be you too.

Here's what research shows us: 75% of women report feeling burnt out from trying to be everything to everyone. But here's what the research doesn't capture—the slow death that happens when you spend your life performing a version of yourself that everyone else can love.

The good girl syndrome isn't just about saying yes too often. It's about the devastating belief that your worth is contingent on your usefulness. That love must be earned through perfection. That your value exists only in how well you can make other people comfortable.

But here's the paradox that will set you free: Good girls don't get what they want—they get what everyone else wants.

And what if I told you that disappointing others was actually the most loving thing you could do? Not just for you, but for them too?

What if learning to disappoint people was actually learning to respect yourself?
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Today, we're detoxing from the good girl programming that's been running your life like malware in the background of your consciousness. We're going to explore why your niceness isn't actually kind, why authentic relationships require disappointment, and how to build a life that feeds your soul instead of everyone else's expectations.

Welcome to your liberation.

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The Feminine Psychology of Becoming Irresistibly Self-Assured and Start Taking Your Power

6/11/2025

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You've been asking permission your entire life.

Permission to speak up. Permission to take up space. Permission to want what you want. Permission to be who you actually are instead of who everyone else needs you to be.
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And I'm here to tell you something that might sting: you've been performing your entire existence.

The woman staring back at you in the mirror? She's exhausted. She's tired of calculating every word, every outfit, every opinion to make sure it lands just right with everyone else. She's tired of shrinking so others feel comfortable. She's tired of being the "easy-going" one while her soul screams for more.

Here's what no one tells you about confidence: it's not about becoming louder, bolder, or more "boss babe" energy. That's masculine confidence, and you've been trying to squeeze your feminine essence into a suit that was never meant to fit.

Real confidence—the kind that makes people lean in instead of back away—is about magnetic self-assurance. It's about trusting your inner voice louder than any external opinion. It's about embodying your power instead of performing it.

Research shows women ask "Is this okay?" three times more than men. But here's the soul-deep truth your inner child has been waiting to hear: you don't need anyone's permission to exist as you are.

The greatest skill of the 21st century isn't networking or even writing—it's learning to trust yourself more than you trust other people's opinions of you. Because when you master that? Everything else becomes possible.

You're about to learn the psychology behind becoming irresistibly self-assured—not through force or fake-it-till-you-make-it mantras, but through what I call "The Inner Goddess Protocol." This is how you rule your inner kingdom before seeking external validation.

And here's the cosmic truth that changes everything: nothing you're worried about actually matters.

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Becoming Unstoppable: The Unstoppable Woman's Manifesto to Transform Your Reality

6/8/2025

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You're feeling it again. That gnawing sensation that you're meant for more.

The restlessness that keeps you scrolling through other women's lives at 1 AM while wondering when you'll finally start living yours. The voice that whispers "this isn't it" while you smile through another day of doing all the right things and feeling absolutely nothing.

I see you.

I've been you – caught in the purgatory between who you've been and who you're meant to become. Paralyzed by perfectionism. Overthinking every move until you make no move at all. Collecting courses, books, and coaches while your soul is screaming for you to simply begin.

The truth? Most women never become unstoppable because they're waiting for permission. They're waiting to feel "ready" – that mythical state where confidence precedes action. They're waiting for the perfect plan, the right timing, or for someone to validate their deepest desires.

But here's what changed everything for me: Unstoppable women aren't born. They're not chosen. They're self-created through a series of decisions to rise above their own limitations.

And it's not about grinding yourself into burnout or hustling until you break. That's the old paradigm that's left so many of us exhausted and still unfulfilled.

True unstoppability is soul-aligned action that feels like flow, not force. It's the alchemy of turning your deepest wounds into your greatest power. It's building momentum so magnetic that the universe can't help but conspire in your favor.

In the next few minutes, I'm going to share the exact blueprint that's transformed my life.

By the end, you'll understand why becoming unstoppable isn't about changing everything about yourself – it's about finally becoming who you already are beneath the layers of doubt, people-pleasing, and limiting stories.


Are you ready to meet her? The unstoppable version of you who's been waiting patiently for you to claim her power?


Let's begin.


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Morning Routine That Activated My Main Character Energy (How To Actually Become The Lead In Your Life)

6/4/2025

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Have you ever felt like you're playing a supporting role in your own life? Like you're watching yourself move through the motions, responding to everyone else's needs, showing up as a side character while the world spins without you at the center?

I've been there. Waking up already feeling behind. Reaching for my phone before my eyes fully adjust to the light. Scrolling through other people's highlight reels before I've even had a chance to check in with my own heart. Starting the day in reaction mode instead of creation mode.

For years, my mornings were the perfect example of someone who had completely lost her way. Lost in other people's expectations. Lost in comparison. Lost in the endless cycle of rushing from one obligation to the next without ever feeling like I was actually living my life.

The worst part? I didn't even realize I had handed over the pen to my story. I didn't recognize that those first waking moments were programming my entire day for disconnection rather than power.

What if the first 60 minutes of your day could recalibrate your entire nervous system for confidence, clarity and alignment without costing any money or excess energy? Let me show you what happened when I stopped treating mornings like a race and started treating them like a sacred ritual.

Because here's the truth your inner child has been waiting for: You were never meant to be a background character.

The spotlight has been waiting for you all along.

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No One's Coming to Save You—Here's Why That's Power

6/1/2025

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You've been waiting for someone to see your potential. For someone to recognize your worth. For someone to hand you the roadmap, the permission slip, the perfect opportunity.

But there's a whisper in your soul that's getting louder: What if no one is coming?

That feeling in your chest right now? It's not disappointment—it's power waiting to be claimed.

We've all done it. Waited for the perfect mentor to take us under their wing. The ideal relationship to make us feel whole. The flawless morning routine that will finally transform our lives. The magical course that will solve all our problems.

But here's the truth your inner child has been terrified to face: the cavalry isn't coming. ​No one is arriving with a magic wand to transform your reality.
And this realization—this moment of clarity—is the most liberating gift you'll ever receive.

Because when you truly accept that no one is coming to save you, you stop living in the waiting room of your own life. You stop postponing your potential. You stop outsourcing your power.

The most fulfilled women in history didn't wait for permission or perfect circumstances. They claimed their journey despite the chaos, despite the uncertainty, despite the fear.

What you're about to discover isn't just another self-help strategy. It's an awakening to the divine power that's been dormant within you—the realization that you were never meant to be saved because you were born to be sovereign.

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