6 Common Goal-Killing Pitfalls Women Face (And How to Overcome Them to Become a Goddess)

Anna has been so inspired lately that she decided to tackle some goals that she has her eye on and has taken the amazing step of crafting her goals in a way that will make achieving them foolproof!

But it’s been a few days since she's written out her goals, her plan to achieve them and setting her milestones with rewards. 

She’s now faced with the toughest and easiest part on your path to achieving your ideal you or taking the first steps to work on your goals. 

Because right after you write out all of your goals and have a solid plan, your motivation can drop or life can become so big that you either forget or don’t have any energy to give towards yourself to improve when just existing seems unbearable. 

Anna doesn’t want to give up her dreams and goals, she wants to complete them but her motivation has dropped and hasn’t taken the first step on her path which wrecks her self esteem. 
Plus the amount of comments that she has been receiving from people around her aren’t helping. They don’t like this “new her” or don’t believe that she can achieve these “lofty” goals. She is starting to wonder if it’s even worth it.

If you have ever found yourself here or here currently, my heart goes out to you and trust me I’ve been there. 

Going on a path to better your life and yourself is not meant for those who are ok with what is given to them. 

This path is for those who demand more, want more and know they deserve more….because you do. 

But because life is unpredictable and full of responsibilities it can be hard to find 5 minutes a day let alone all the time you need to fulfill your lofty goals. 

But have no fear, I have some common traps that people usually find themselves in when they start on their journey to becoming and achieving everything that they want. 

This is the most important and pivotal time because motivation and dopamine is starting to wear off and the mountain of work seems unclimbable. This is usually where people stop or “wait until life calms down” before diving back in. 

This guide is not only for you, I’m writing this to myself a year ago and probably to future me at some point when trying to achieve a new goal.
Because I’ve used every excuse and given up on myself countless times but trust me, after using these “detours” or ways to handle each of the common ways that make someone fail, it is possible to work on your dreams and YOU ARE DESERVING OF YOUR DREAMS. No matter what you or someone else in your life will tell you!

Because once you no longer accept the unspoken “what ifs” of your untapped potential, you’ll finally be able to rise up and claim your divine power within!

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Hello and welcome to the Goddess Energy Academy where I, Angel, help others awaken their power within to craft and create a life that is as beautiful and unique as the goddess that makes it. 

And one of the first steps to manifesting and keeping that life is the skill of understanding common mind traps and games that others use in order to keep you small or stunt your growth. 

Not only do people get this from others but we all as humans have this tendency to do it to ourselves through self sabotage, people pleasing and allowing your lower frequencies tendencies to take over to name a few. 

I’m here to help give you ways to see when that is happening and lend you a hand to get over those obstacles because you deserve to live your best, most authentic life! 

Because your goals and your ideal you is easy to achieve when you are properly aware of all the most popular ways that people fail (roadblocks below) and offer you detours to gracefully sashay away from them to keep making progress and achieve everything your heart desires. 

If you aren’t sure who you want to become or what goals to focus on, I would suggest starting with those guides first and then coming back here to really set yourself up for success. 

If you’ve already done those guides or already know your goals or who you want to become and are looking for ways to bulletproof your success then keep on reading fellow goddesses!

6 Roadblocks & Detours To Fast Track Success

Roadblock 1 - You share your goals with someone who only shares their negative experience or thoughts about your new goals/you that are filled with anxiety and warnings.

• Detour - People are inherently selfish and can’t help but only see life through their perspective and what they’ve gone through. They don’t realize that you are completely different from them and your experience will be different. Even if it does pan out the same, you’ll gain so much knowledge and experience that you can use to fine tune your life and decisions. If it’s something you truly want, don’t let anyone sway you.
  
• People usually project their insecurities or worries onto people and react as if they were going through what you just told them. They can’t help but see from their eyes and feel from their soul. Some people show how much they care for you by worrying but if you know why you want this and know that their worries are just that, worries, then carry on. 
  
• If anything they say makes you wonder, then go do some research to make sure but don’t just give up because someone might not know what you are even trying to accomplish or they don’t know what you can do. 

• ​No one is going to see the same vision that you can see and that’s ok.
  

Roadblock 2 - You’ve tried for a while and only feel tired with no results yet.

• Detour - Anything worth having takes time, have faith that it will work out. On top of that because that’s nice to hear but what can you gain from it, right? So take a look at your timeline and markers (from last week's guide) to see if you need to adjust them.
  
• Instead of focusing on only achieving your end goal, focus on all the little goals and achievements that you’ve gained so far! 
  
• How many days have you shown up for yourself that you haven’t before? How many pages of that book have you written that you haven’t before? Or how many people have you talked to while on your journey to find friends that you haven’t before? 
  
• There are so many things to be proud of that show you that you are slowly but surely on your path to achieve your goal and become your ideal you because you are WORKING on it. And as long as you continue to move forward, you will get there!
  
• Learn about the detaching method to truly free yourself from needing to see the results because you know that the universe has got your back and will give you what you are working towards (next guide coming out is all about detaching - don’t forget to sign up to the newsletter!)
  

Roadblock 3 - You realize as you start on your journey that you don’t like who you picked as your ideal you or your goals aren’t really what you expected.

• Detour - Have no fear, that is part of the process! Figure out what and why you don’t like those aspects and then go back to the last guide (goals) and adjust to try something new!
• Don’t see it as a failure or feel down about it. With every change I’ve made to who I thought I wanted to show up as and how many goals I’ve switched lanes or stopped completely only brought me closer and closer to who I truly am. 
• There’s this country song my mom used to love growing up and the song lyrics have always stayed with me and I hope it can be worthwhile to you but it goes, “god bless the broken road that led me straight to you”. You can change the god part and this is meant as a love song but I like to think of it as being thankful that I’m finally finding myself. I have gone on many a broken road journeys to get to this point and I know I’ll find myself bracing against more in the future but with every road crossed, I’m becoming stronger, happier and more authentic. I can rest easy at night knowing I’m becoming who I’m meant to be and I want this for you! You deserve to buckle up and get on that path to becoming the amazing goddess you were meant to be! 
• So if you need to make some adjustments, make them! But be mindful about if it’s you not liking it or if it’s other people's opinions on it. This could be due to people pleasing & not your real thoughts. If you want help with people pleasing, check out this guide here.
• People pleasing sucks all the joy out of your life and leaves you as an empty carcass and we don’t want that. We want your true you to awaken and become empowered.
• If other people don’t want to take the time to listen to you or to try to understand why then their opinions don’t matter. At the end of the day, you are going to be alone with your thoughts. Your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship because if you aren’t right with yourself, it makes showing up for anyone else all the more difficult. 

Roadblock 4 - You’re facing backlash or people complaining that you’re not the same anymore

• Detour - Continuing on with other people, this next roadblock is how to deal with people complaining about you changing. 
• If you haven’t heard of the Crab bucket mentality, let me share with you a nasty trait humans share with crabs. Say there are crabs trapped in a bucket, when one crab tries to escape, the other crabs, instead of helping each other to get out to safety, will instead grab the escaping crab and pull it back down to be trapped with the rest. 
• Humans will react the same way. When someone sees you reaching for your dream or putting in the work to be better, you touch their insecurity and when you touch someone's insecurity (without you or sometimes them knowing) people react horribly. You remind them of the dreams they gave up on and hold resentment for. Or you remind them of how they could get out if they put in the work but they’ve accepted whatever life they have now and don’t want you to do better and make them feel alone or weak. 
• They want you to stay exactly where you are to make them feel better, not you.
•  Or people simply want you at a discount price. They don’t want to have to up their game to be able to maintain their relationship with you. They like walking all over you and demanding this or that and ughhhhh if you start making healthy boundaries or take time for yourself???!!!! Their heads will explode! 
• People who try to bring you down want to be better than you. Plain and simple and those are the people you don’t want to be around. 
• Successful people will cheer others on their journey up while losers will only talk shit about those at the top. 
• Who do you want in your corner? 

Roadblock 5 - You can’t seem to stay motivated

• Detour - This is the hardest in my opinion and one I always struggle with once you overcome people pleasing but luckily, there are ways to help you re-find motivation
• Do you have goal trackers small enough to see proof? And small enough in the beginning to make progress? This is where we can biohack ourselves for success right in the beginning. Pro-athletes and successful business people use this trick all the time and is commonly referred to as the “winners effect”. Basically what you do is start off with an easy and SMALL win which will make you more likely to achieve your goal and continue than if you set yourself up for failure. There is NO shame in starting off small, it's actually the smartest thing you can do. 
• If you’ve made yourself need to write 10 pages each day or walk for 60 minutes or only eat healthy for one month right in the beginning when you have no habit for it, then no wonder you can't stay motivated because you haven’t built up the routine of just writing ½ a page a day or walk for 5 minutes or eating healthy for one day or one week. Your self esteem is going to be nothing when you keep finding yourself “failing”. 
• Build it up by doing the bare minimum in the beginning and slowly increase to your 60 minutes/10 pages/one month. That’s how I started my walking journey. I started off with just 5 minutes a day for 6 out of 7 days and if I was successful for one week then I rewarded myself with a little bath bomb set from 5 Below to take boujee-er baths lol. I now feel so happy to have proved to myself that I can do this that I have been consistent for over 6 months and now can walk 3 miles easily (takes me forever but I just throw on a good show or movie while I fire up my Facebook marketplace walking pad - speed is going to be for next year's goal 🙂for now that goal and focus is on consistency). And even though I can now do 3 miles, that does NOT mean I do 3 miles everyday. Some days I do a mile, others 10 minutes, and sometimes I go over 3 miles. Success for me lies in if I simply showed up and did my best, even if that means 5 minutes, I still showed up.
• Something else to think about is if you are journalling, have a vision board (both printed and phone saver?), listen to subliminals to help you keep going, talking about it with a trusted friend or therapist or some way to remind yourself of your why? By having reminders around you about what your goal is and WHY you have this goal (you must have a meaningful “why” for any goal). 
• That “why” and that reminder will help motivate you to show up for those 5 minutes when you scheduled yourself for an hour. As women, we already have the beautiful disadvantage of having our hormones go on a crazy journey every month. Accepting and understanding how your body works and what it is going through each week of your cycle makes it a lot easier to plan around your energy levels and even social obligations. 
• If you haven’t already looked into seed cycling or working with your cycle, I highly suggest it because the more you know about your body and what it goes through, gives you more information about how to work with it than against it. 
• For example, I noticed from journaling that my motivation to learn, understand and research is very high right after ovulation and into PMS week and completely dies for the other two weeks but I have incredible creative drive and want to go do everything I can. Now that I know that, I lessen up on my strict writing routine during my two research weeks and lean into that more and save a lot of my creative drive for when I’m in that zone naturally. People get so burnt out when they force themselves in an unhealthy way to stick to a plan that goes against their very being. So by journaling and reminding yourself of your why and listening to your body are all ways to help motivate you when you need to. 
• Also please understand that it is impossible to be happy or even content 100% of the time. Working on something is going to require you to go through hard days. Having the faith in knowing that even when you show up on the hard days and give 5 minutes instead of the 30 you reach for, will keep you moving forward than if you just stopped.
• Obviously have self compassion when needed and don’t burn yourself out. It is a balancing act that you’ll master with enough repetitions and reflection. 

Roadblock 6 - You constantly feel overwhelmed with how everyone you see or read about on SM has achieved their dream lives in seemingly a few months while you are taking a lot longer to develop any progress on yours.

• Detour - Understand that a lot of people lie on SM to be able to gain followers fast and there are SO many videos on Youtube that go over how those accounts fake their progress and go into debt to make people think they are better/smarter/faster/whatever to gain popularity. I have nothing publicly to show about my life and what I’ve been working on for 4 years besides how I feel inside, how my home life is, how my goals are growing and all the wonderful stuff that means more to me than trying to show off things that don't matter to me. I know that it takes years to develop a strong, bulletproof foundation for my life that no matter what life throws at me, I know I have a strong understanding of how to navigate out of it stronger, wiser and better. 
• You have nothing to prove to anyone but to who you were yesterday. Remember that other people have access to different resources that you might not be able to see or have access to so don’t worry about what this person or that person is doing. Hopefully you can switch to a “oh my gosh good for them for achieving that! That is an inspiration for me!” BUT if they keep triggering an envious feeling within yourself, I suggest taking a moment to write out and reflect why and then possibly unfollow that person. 
• Instead start to follow people and accounts that keep you in that headspace of achieving your goals and unfollow/stop hanging out with people who don’t help or hinder your new you.
• Or potentially take some much needed breaks from SM and content because comparison is the thief of all joy so by detaching from the constant “look at me” results, you can disconnect and re-regulate your body and mind to what is actually attainable for you right now. AKA get your sanity back.

CONCLUSION 
Now that you have some of the most common traps that people fall into when starting or continuing their journey ahead and armed with ways to scoot around them for success, you have an amazing chance of becoming that person and achieving your goals!

When in the face of needing to do something that you know you should do to move yourself forward, ask yourself “what can I do to make this easier?” 

Is it only doing it for 5 mins or playing a playlist or maybe moving the time of day when you want to do it (I found that I really procrastinate when waiting later in the day, now I put important items as the first thing I do in the morning before my full time job where will power is high to knock it out) or maybe adding in a little reward after you get it done. 

Take this time to figure out what your common traps are and ways to try to overcome them to help you succeed more! 

If you have any tips for your fellow goddesses, please share them below! I know I would love to hear them!

Remember to ask yourself, “what could I become and accomplish if I embraced the energy of the goddess within?” because I for one would love to see who you become.

Remember that you are beyond worthy of anything you want in life.

Let’s stick together and cheer each other on my fellow goddess!

I believe in you sweet soul and until next time, I wish you peace, strength and hope.

~Love Angel
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