She stood at the edge of her transformation—surrounded by journals filled with affirmations, shelves lined with self-help books, and walls adorned with vision boards that whispered promises of the woman she was becoming.
Yet something was missing. The more she turned inward, the more a strange emptiness echoed back. Her meditation practice deepened, her morning rituals expanded, but the fulfillment she sought remained just beyond her grasp—a phantom that disappeared each time she reached for it. This is the shadow paradox that lurks beneath the surface of our self-improvement obsession. The very path that promises liberation can become its own gilded cage. Research from the University of California reveals that 78% of women engaged in intensive personal development report feelings of isolation and disconnection after six months of solely inward-focused work. The neurons that fire together when we experience connection with others—the very circuits that evolved to make us human—begin to atrophy when our growth becomes a solitary journey. You've felt it, haven't you? That moment when you've conquered another layer of limiting beliefs, mastered another mindset technique, only to look up and find yourself alone in your evolution. The journals and workbooks pile up, but something primal within you hungers for more. What if I told you that the most direct path to your highest self isn't found in the mirror at all? What if the key to unlocking your most magnetized, activated state isn't another round of shadow work or alignment practices, but rather in the alchemy that happens when you extend your hand beyond yourself? The ancient temples held a secret that modern personal development has forgotten: transformation is not a solo pilgrimage but a sacred dance between inner awakening and outer service. The priestesses didn't just commune with the divine within—they channeled that power outward to heal, teach, and elevate their communities. This guide reveals the missing piece of your evolutionary puzzle—how the path to your most extraordinary self requires both descending into your depths and extending beyond your boundaries. When these forces merge, something magical happens. Your growth accelerates. Your power magnifies. Your purpose crystallizes. It's time to break free from the self-improvement treadmill and discover how turning outward doesn't dilute your journey—it catalyzes it in ways you never imagined possible.
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You stand there, lips curved into a smile that doesn't quite reach your eyes, as the weight of yet another "yes" settles onto your already-burdened shoulders.
In that moment, a whisper of truth rises from the depths of your being--this isn't what I want—before being silenced by the familiar chorus of "but what will they think?" This, dear one, is the silent sacrifice of the people-pleaser—a dance of self-betrayal performed on the altar of external validation. The average woman spends nearly 15 hours each week doing things solely to please others—that's 780 hours a year, or 32 full days of your precious life force offered to the gods of approval. Time that could be channeled into your dreams, your healing, your rise. But here's the shadow truth most dare not speak: your endless accommodation isn't the gift you believe it to be. Each time you twist yourself into painful shapes to fit others' expectations, you're not practicing kindness--you're engaging in a subtle form of self-violence. The resentment builds, silent and toxic, contaminating the very relationships you're trying to preserve. The cruel paradox reveals itself: in your quest to please everyone, you end up pleasing no one—least of all yourself. Your unique magic becomes diluted, your fiery essence dimmed, your goddess nature suppressed. But imagine, for a moment, the woman who stands in her truth. Who speaks her "no" with the same reverence as her "yes." Who understands that boundaries aren't walls but sacred thresholds that teach others how to love her properly. This woman doesn't diminish herself to make others comfortable—she expands into her fullness and invites others to rise accordingly. This transformation awaits you. Not in becoming selfish, but in becoming sovereign—reclaiming the throne of your life from those to whom you've unconsciously surrendered it. The journey begins with a single, trembling "no"—and blooms into the most profound "yes" to yourself. She arrives home, handbag sliding from her shoulder to the floor, a trail of expectations and obligations clinging to her like phantom limbs. Another day spent saying "yes" when her soul begged for "no." Another evening surrendered to everyone but herself.
This is not your destiny. The average woman will spend over 40,000 hours of her life tending to others' needs before her own. That's nearly five years of your precious existence, dissolved into the wants and demands of those around you. The silent thief of feminine potential isn't a lack of ambition or capability—it's what I call the "boundary deficit." I've witnessed a startling pattern when it comes to ambitious women or women who want more from life. Those who rise, who truly claim their power and manifest their deepest desires, share one common practice: they've mastered the art of boundaries. Not as rigid walls that isolate, but as luminous thresholds that honor their divine energy. What if I told you that boundaries aren't about pushing others away, but about creating space for your soul to breathe? What if the very act of drawing your line in the sand could magnetize rather than repel the connections you crave? "The only people who get upset about you setting boundaries are the ones who were benefiting from you having none." - Unknown In the next few moments, I'll unveil the six-week journey that has transformed women from boundary-depleted to sovereignty-claimed. A process that doesn't just change your calendar or conversations, but rewrites the energetic contract you have with the world. The goddess doesn't ask permission to exist in her fullness. She declares it. The Boundary Paradox: Why Limits Create Freedom "When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated." - Brené Brown There's a pervasive myth that haunts the corridors of feminine consciousness: that boundaries create distance, that they somehow diminish our capacity to love and be loved. I've witnessed countless women, brilliant in their fields yet bleeding energy at the seams, avoid setting limits for fear of appearing selfish, difficult, or worst of all—unlovable. This is the great illusion. Most approach boundaries like emergency brakes--deployed only when we're already careening toward burnout, resentment pooling in our veins. We wait until we're drowning before we dare to say, "I cannot be your lifeboat today." Mara—successful on paper, depleted in spirit. A marketing executive with two children and aging parents, she wore her accessibility like a badge of honor. Available to all, at all hours, for all things. Her phone was constantly alight with demands, her home a revolving door of others' needs. "I can't say no," she confessed with a sigh and slouch in her shoulders. "Everyone depends on me." Six weeks later, she sent a message : "For the first time in my adult life, I feel like I'm actually living my own life. My team respects my work hours. My children understand when Mom needs sacred space. And strangely, my relationships feel deeper, not more distant. I've stopped performing connection and started feeling it." This is the boundary paradox. Have you ever felt that hollow ache in your chest—the one that appears when you're surrounded by people yet feel utterly alone? Perhaps it visits in those moments when you've achieved something magnificent but have no one who truly understands the mountain you climbed to get there. Or maybe it's most noticeable in the quiet hours when doubt creeps in, and you find yourself scrolling through perfectly curated social media feeds, wondering why connection feels so elusive. I see you. And more importantly--you are not alone in feeling alone. The Isolation Trap ⚠️ Picture this: It's Wednesday evening. You're curled up on your couch, the soft glow of your laptop illuminating your face as you mindlessly scroll through emails. Your promotion came through today—the one you've been working toward for months—yet the celebration texts feel hollow. Something is missing. In a world where we're more "connected" than ever, why do so many of us feel like we're drowning in a sea of superficial interactions? The truth is devastating in its simplicity: we've traded depth for breadth. We have hundreds of connections but few true confidants. And for women especially, this disconnection comes at a painful cost—to our mental health, our sense of self, and even our professional success. The woman who faces life's battles without a circle of sisters beside her isn't just missing out on weekend brunches. She's missing the ancient medicine our souls have relied upon since the beginning of time. The Power of Sisterhood 🌸 Since the dawn of humanity, women have gathered. Around fires, in red tents, in kitchens and courtyards—sharing wisdom, holding space for vulnerability, and witnessing each other's evolution. This wasn't just social pleasure; it was survival. It was medicine. Science now confirms what our ancestors knew intuitively: women's bodies literally release oxytocin—the bonding hormone—when we gather with other women we trust. Our stress responses are calmed. Our immune systems strengthen. Our clarity sharpens. This is why I started Goddess Energy Academy and the Facebook community, because I understand that transformation doesn't happen in isolation. The woman you're becoming needs to be witnessed, challenged, celebrated, and understood by others walking similar paths. But whether you join our circle or find another, the message remains: you were never meant to do this alone. The journey ahead will reveal not just the power of finding your people, but how that discovery awakens parts of yourself you never knew were sleeping. Let’s face it, socializing today is difficult. We no longer have a few common shows on tv that everyone watches or select radio stations to listen to music. Everything has become so niche, which don’t get me wrong, it’s amazing and I love it but when it comes to connecting and socializing it becomes difficult. We don’t have those “oh did you watch the new episode of ~insert a show on a popular channel~ last night?” or “that new song on Z radio was great right?!”. With everything being more niche, it can be difficult to socialize with people and even harder when you are dealing with friends and family who like to break boundaries and overstep. Trying to find your footing in any situation can be hard and made harder if you don’t know these common social missteps and aren’t implementing the “must dos” when engaging with people. Because if you’re like me, socializing can be hard, difficult, anxiety inducing or not knowing what to say. You might find yourself wanting to talk to the people who look like sunshine is radiating from their faces but then find yourself gravitating towards the person alone in the corner or finding the person who looks like they might need to be saved or somehow sniffed out the toxic person so you spend your time with them rather than what you originally wanted. By not equipping yourself with the tools that will lead you to success and making meaningful connections, you will lead a life full of the same patterns of being walked on, overworked, tired, not making friends that you wanted or weren’t good for you or having your boundaries stepped on constantly. But once you no longer accept the unspoken “what ifs” of your untapped potential, you’ll finally be able to rise up and claim your divine power within! Join the goddess movement and finally FEEL what it’s like to be a goddess! Hello and welcome to the Goddess Energy Academy where I, Angel, help others awaken their power within to craft and create a life that is as beautiful and unique as the goddess that makes it. And one of the first steps to manifesting and keeping that life is the skill of successful socializing and strong boundaries. When you have mastered these two skills, being around people will feel like a breeze while also maintaining a calm, healthy, balanced internal state. This calm, balanced state is heightened even more when you have done the prior guides of figuring out who you are, who you want to become and the ways people (and yourself) can hinder your goals and progress of becoming your ideal you. By going through those guides, you begin to awaken your goddess-like self confidence and trust knowing that you will be everything you’ve ever dreamed. And since we are inherently social creatures, honing the art of socializing is only going to make everything easier. This doesn’t mean you have to be a social butterfly, unless of course you want to then by all means, read on to stretch those wings of yours! But if that’s not your vibe, then no problem, this is meant to help give you the tools to be able to handle yourself in any social situation. So let's get to the guide of social missteps, strong boundaries and must dos! Hey, beautiful souls! Today, we're diving deep into the celestial world of goddesses, where even these divine beings grapple with the daily grind we all face.
But fear not, because we're about to reveal a transformative mindset hack that will propel you toward your dream life. Stick around and let's light that fire within! So how does a goddess overcome the struggles of preserving to achieve their dream life? Well the first step is understanding what I mean when I refer to a goddess. I do have this video and blog post that you can watch/read here, that dives in deeper of what I mean but essentially I use the idea of what a goddess stands for i.e. strength, grace, power, beauty in their own unique way as a place holder of who your ideal you is and how your ideal you is perceived. I believe we all have an inner goddess and some have their goddess still sleeping and needs to be awaken, to give us their power and grace and wisdom because are you the type of person that can give wonderful advice to your friends and family but somehow aren’t living up to your standards? You’re able to solve their problems with ease but when it comes to yours, you go blank? That’s partly because your goddess within already knows what you need to do (i.e. the same wisdom you give to others) and wants to help you create and manifest that for you now. But like the mortals that we are, life has a way of trying to side track your desires, forcing you to conform or other shitty people are trying to dissuade you from living your best life BUT I will explain some ways you can counterattack these missiles that are meant to derail and instead you will learn how to reroute those missiles back to the ones who sent them. Unveiling the Goddess Struggle: Even goddesses, with all their grace and power, can struggle to find motivation, to feel the creeping fear of failure, and the anxiety of the unknown. These are universal challenges. In this celestial struggle, goddesses remind us that vulnerability is not weakness, but a stepping stone to greatness. First things first – realize that the struggle is real and that it's okay to admit that finding motivation, battling fear, and facing the unknown are challenges you face. And reading this post is proof that you are not only willing to overcome that challenge but that you know you are worthy of your goals. Because the simple sad truth is that most people are too fucking scared to even dream anymore. When they were younger, they had dreams and ideals of what they think they’ll become and do and then as soon as they see how hard it will be or be laughed at by other shitty people who are secretly scared (which I will dive into more in a second) that they give up. They are too afraid to prove the naysayers right or don’t even think that they deserve anything good or they are too stupid to achieve it or a million other reasons. Be fearless in thinking big with what you want your life to be like and remind yourself that you are worthy of your biggest goals. If anyone ever said otherwise to you, know that my heart goes out to you and please feel this when I say that they were and are wrong. You are worth it and you are deserving of happiness, love and success. Be fearless and set your goals high. The Fear Factor: When you set your goals, don’t fall into the fear of failure, rejection, or the unknown because it can paralyze even the most divine souls. Yet, within this fear lies the potential for transformation. Instead of succumbing to fear of actually acting on your goals, goddesses tap into their inner strength, recognizing that fear is a compass pointing towards growth. As mortals, we too can harness this divine insight, understanding that fear is not a roadblock but a guide on the path to our dreams. Identify what you're afraid of by acting and starting down the path towards your goals, and turn it into an action plan. Break down those fears into smaller, manageable steps, and watch as the fear transforms into your compass pointing you straight to success. For example, before starting my other YouTube channels, I was petrified of putting my face on camera and to talk about a controversial topic. I knew I was going to be laughed at, threatened, misunderstood and a million other reasons. I also thought I wasn’t pretty enough or smart enough or charming enough to be on YouTube. But one day I decided to stop thinking about all the “what could go wrong” and ask myself “what could go right?” and that’s when I discovered that I was so afraid of succeeding but I didn’t value myself and if this did go right, then I would have more friends and opportunities for growth and all of that was scary. I was forcing myself into this unknown path and wasn’t sure how it was going to pan out. And I can say for 100% certenty that I would not be who I am today if I hadn’t started my other channels back in 2019. i am so grateful to myself for pushing past the fears that caused me anxiety attacks daily but the growth and the courage I gained from over coming that is an incredible feeling that I really want you to feel. There is something so powerful when you do the things you say you are going to do and actually showing up for you. I don’t know about you or your up bringing but for me I never really had anyone who I could rely on for even the most basic human needs. So I learned young that I had to rely on myself to get stuff done and to survive. (Any other CPTSD babes out there lmao) But now that I have gotten myself to an ok spot, I found myself wanting more which is natural and to do something different with my life but as I set my goals and set my timeline I found myself pushing off my tasks or saying tomorrow I’ll start my action plan and it wasn’t until I watched this video of someone who said something along the lines of “How to actually achieve your dream and prove to yourself that you can do it, is by actually doing it. No one is going to save you and no one is going to hand you your dreams. Prove to yourself that you can do this by simply doing what you say you’re going to do and slowly as you do this more, your confidence increases and you start to actually make progress.” Show up for yourself because no one else is going to. And once you start, don’t stop! Because you can’t win if don't start and you can’t lose if you don’t quit. Preserving the Dream: Goddesses embody perseverance in its purest form. Despite their divine stature, they understand that achieving their dreams requires unwavering determination. As we navigate our own journeys, we must adopt this goddess mindset, embracing challenges as opportunities to evolve and persisting in the face of adversity. After all, the path to a dream life is rarely a straight line, but a journey adorned with twists, turns, and challenges that test our resolve. And one of the biggest set backs that I faced and you might too is when those around you make fun of you for pursuing your dreams. They call you dumb, weak, no follow through, weird, the good ol “oh your starting something new, giving you a week before you quit” or whatever other insults that they say in hopes that you abandon your dreams and you know why? Because hurt people, hurt people. If you think about it, people who are happy or are working towards some goal for themselves don’t feel the need to bring someone else down. It’s usually the person who let their dreams die and are upset by it because watching you pursue your dreams, reminds them of their inability to follow through with theirs. Which leads me to the next point. Ignoring the Naysayers: In the mortal realm, naysayers are everywhere, casting doubt and discouragement like dark shadows. But a true goddess knows that those who dissuade us from our dreams are often bound by their own fears and insecurities. By acknowledging this truth, we gain the power to silence the external noise and focus on our own journey. Embrace the goddess wisdom: the opinions of those who fear pursuing their own dreams are not worth your attention. There is this crazy human condition known as the “Crab bucket analogy” (which I used in this video here) which states 💡 The metaphor is derived from anecdotal claims about the behavior of crabs when they are trapped in a bucket: while any one crab can easily start to climb out, it will nonetheless be pulled back in by the others, ensuring the group's collective demise. Best described by the phrase "if I can't have it, neither can you” We’ve all met someone who is just determined to bring those around them down into their pit of despair because misery loves company. GET THE FUCK AWAY FROM THEM AND DO YOU BABBEEEYYYYY OKKKKK You are too wise for that bullshit because wisdom teaches us to filter out the noise. In the mortal realm, naysayers are a dime a dozen, but their opinions are just distractions from your true path. Tune in to your own frequency, and let go of the negativity. Your journey is uniquely yours, and it's time to own it. Goddesses are known for their unwavering determination, and guess what? You've got that same power within you! No matter what obstacles come your way, keep pushing forward. Remember, the road to success is a journey, not a destination. Every challenge is a chance to grow stronger. Embracing the Goddess Within: The journey to unleashing your inner goddess is a transformative experience. It requires self-reflection, acceptance of vulnerability, and the courage to face your fears head-on. Embrace the goddess mindset, and you'll discover the strength to overcome obstacles, the motivation to pursue your dreams relentlessly, and the wisdom to ignore the doubters. If you would like some help on how to create your ideal you or your inner goddess as i like to refer to as, then check out this video to help get you started. Because, my fellow beautiful goddess, You at the end of the day are thee only person who knows what you’ve been through and why you are doing what you’re doing so as long as you have your mindset right (watch these videos to strengthen yours 1& 2) then you can have peace knowing that no one else’s opinion can stand up to yours. You are unbothered because you have the biggest goals and the clearest of visions. Make sure to channel your inner goddess. Because nothing is more powerful than embodying success before you achieve it. Imagine yourself already living your dream life. Feel the emotions, visualize the success, and let that energy propel you forward. This isn't just woo-woo; it's a powerful manifestation technique embraced by many successful individuals in almost every aspect of life. Like I’m literally reading the new Arnold Schwarzenegger book and he literally is describing manifestation but just dressed up in body builder metaphors, it’s great. Conclusion: As we delve into the empowering world of goddesses, we unveil a mindset hack that transcends myth and legend. The struggles they face resonate deeply with our own, and the wisdom they impart is a guiding light towards conquering fear and pursuing our dreams. Embrace your inner goddess, and let her inspire you to navigate the journey ahead with grace, strength, and an unwavering commitment to your dream life. Embrace vulnerability, turn fear into fuel, persist through challenges, filter out the noise, and embody the goddess within. Your journey to a dream life starts now. Stick around, soak in the wisdom, and let the unstoppable force within you lead the way. You've got this bestieeee! Goddess WAKE UP! It's time to rise up and reclaim your power.
No more living for others, it's time to live for yourself! You deserve to pursue your dreams, embrace your true essence, and live a life of fulfillment and happiness. It's time to break free from the cycle of people-pleasing and start living life on your own terms. 1. Embrace Your Authentic SelfWe don’t know what we truly want because we never really sat down with ourselves and think about it. The first step towards breaking free from the chains of societal expectations is to embrace your authentic self. Don't let other people's opinions define who you are or what you should be. Celebrate your uniqueness and let your true essence shine. Remember, you are a Goddess with incredible potential and it's time to unleash your power! What do I mean by inner goddess? Watch this video after reading this or check out this blog post to understand deeply that you are a goddess and just don’t know it yet. By being honest with yourself about your current life, WHICH PLEASE DO SO WITH NO JUDGEMENT, because the world is nuts and I know you’re just trying to do the best you can with what you got so take deep breath, relax and start to write down what you want to change about your life and cut yourself a break and know that you are trying. 2. Set Boundaries and Prioritize YourselfA lot of us live our lives without realizing it on what we think others will approve of (obvy not all of us but to some level we know we will judged and would like to look like we have our shit together. some people don’t have this problem and odds are they aren’t reading about this topic so we soul sisters out here). But as you adopt the clear vision of your ideal you, which is your inner goddess, the only persons opinion that you should care about, is your own. You know why you are doing what you’re doing and if people don’t want to try and understand then their opinion shouldn’t register because they just won’t get it and that’s ok. To stop people-pleasing, it's crucial to set healthy boundaries. Learn to say no when something doesn't align with your values or goals. Prioritize your own needs and desires without feeling guilty. Remember, you are not responsible for the happiness of others. By setting boundaries, you are honoring yourself and creating space for your own growth and happiness. 3. Cultivate Self-Love and Nurture Your Inner GoddessJust like what I said earlier about people being too afraid to look at their life and make a goal about what they want to be, it’s even harder to actively start to be that person and to overcome the fear of the unknown. I know from my own experience that it is scary and how that fear manifested in my life was in the form of procrastination. I would plan and plan and plan but never act on any of it because at some level inside myself I didn’t think I was worthy or strong enough to achieve my goals and become the person I am today and who I am actively still trying to become. I let the words of others dictate who I was but who I didn’t want to be. I finally had had enough and set my path to figuring out how to finally work on me and stop being everything to everyone. Self-love is the foundation of living a fulfilling life. Treat yourself with kindness, respect, and compassion. Treat you like you would treat the person that you care for the most but then ramp it up because at least you know the effort that you are doing to make that person aka you, be their top priority. I have done so much for some many people and have them not care, throw it in my face or just be like cool thanks. So take time for self-care activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul in the direction that you want to go in. Don’t “self-love” yourself into debt by “treating yourself” constantly if your goal is to save money for an expensive trip you’ve wanted to go on for years, think about another way to treat yourself that aligns with your goals. Obvy that’s just an example to show that sometimes, which I am fully guilty of, of treating yourself to something that actually makes you take a step back. For me my goal was to be healthier because I have autoimmune issues but I would treat myself to food that would put my body in an inflamed state. I was actively self sabotaging myself without realizing it. Now that doesn’t mean I don’t have those foods every now and then but by having a goal I am less likely to want them because I know it’s not what my ideal me would do. Now I treat myself to a cute new piece of clothing that is in line with my ideal me wardrobe because that is something that will make me just as happy. Embrace your inner Goddess and believe in your worthiness. Know that you deserve the best that life has to offer and make self-love a priority in your daily routine. 4. Pursue Your Passions FearlesslyDon't let fear or the judgment of others hold you back from pursuing your passions. Your dreams and desires are valid, and it's time to chase them with unwavering determination. Our family and friends go into the “crabs in a bucket” situation and only want to see you do better but not better than them. For example to explain the crabs in a bucket metaphor, when one crab tries to escape from the bucket to freedom, another crab or crabs will grab the one trying to live their life for them and will pull that hoe back down because if the stuck ones are dying then damnit so are you. Your friends that you have now, most likely had dreams that they gave up on and by you actually chasing yours, reminds them on some level that they gave up on theirs and then will want to pull you back down and to give up on yours so you can be together in misery. Follow your heart and do what brings you joy and fulfillment. Surround yourself with supportive and like-minded individuals who uplift and encourage you to reach for the stars. Together, you can create a powerful support system that fuels your journey towards success. This step is currently where I’m at and is one of the main drivers for me to start this blog. So I can have fellow goddess friends to share my wins with who will be happy for me, to also share my struggles with and gain guidance from and to allow me to cheer and celebrate other people who are actually trying to better their lives and achieve their goals. I want to be the cheerleader and also the star. And I want that for you too so if that sounds like your vibe then join the newsletter or our private FaceBook Group to chat with others!! I am also trying to go out and meet people in activities that align with my goals and ideal me to surround myself with people who will better me. I know that I will have to try different Meetups and classes until I find my gaggle of goddesses but I know they are out there and wanting to find me too so I won’t be giving up and I hope you wont either. 5. Believe in Yourself and Trust Your Inner VoiceWe are too afraid to admit to ourselves that we have a huge goal because we on some level don’t know if we deserve it. But I’m here to tell you that you are deserving because honestly, there are people living your dream life who aren’t as smart as you or as nice as you or are as caring as you so if they have the courage to live that dream, why can’t you? Believe in your abilities and trust your intuition. You have the power to create the life you envision for yourself. Don't let the fear of failure or the opinions of others dim your inner light. Stay focused on your goals, embrace challenges as opportunities for growth, and have faith in your journey. Your inner Goddess is guiding you every step of the way, reminding you of your immense strength and potential. Remember, you are the author of your own life story. Wake up your inner Goddess, break free from people-pleasing, and embrace the life you truly deserve. It's time to live for yourself, follow your passions, and let your light shine brightly, which will inspire others to do the same. Embrace your power, dear Goddess, and let your journey of self-discovery and empowerment begin! |
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