 What Happens If You Stay Stuck in the Wrong Patterns? You wake up, you scroll your phone, you hit snooze, rush through your morning, and promise yourself tomorrow you’ll do better. But then, tomorrow comes, and the cycle simply repeats. 🔄 You’re not lazy. You’re not broken. You’re just trapped in a pattern. Patterns are silent architects—either building the life you crave or keeping you in an endless loop of self-sabotage. Where you think about a tomorrow that never comes but one you’ll be hopeful for when the day seems the darkest. Acting as your safety blanket in the world you find yourself in. If you feel like you’re running in circles, it’s because your subconscious is running the same program. The program that is predictable, so for the subconscious that means “safe” even if it’s hell for you. But here’s the truth: you can rewire it. This guide will show you how to break your destructive sabotage cycles and create empowered habits that make your life come alive. ✨ It’s time to stop being a prisoner of your past patterns and become the conscious creator of your future. Let’s begin. 🌙 Why Patterns Control Your Life (And How to Break Free) Your brain is wired for efficiency, which means that it defaults to habit loops—whether they serve you or not. 🧠 According to neuroscience, 40-95% of our actions are unconscious patterns (Duhigg, 2012) ~ sources linked below. That means if you’re struggling, it’s not because you lack willpower—it’s because you’re running on outdated programming. Programming that was given to you by your parents growing up, the society you grew up around, media and peers. A story that was crafted on the backs of other insecurities and failures. The good news? You can rewrite the story.. 🖋️ Like an artist sculpting their masterpiece, you can consciously create the habits, mindsets, and rituals that shape your reality. Because your everyday habits create the life you live in. This guide will help you: ✅ Identify the hidden patterns running your life. ✅ Break free from self-sabotaging cycles. ✅ Build new habits that feel aligned and powerful. ✅ Finally take control of your destiny. 🧿 Step 1: Identify Your Self-Sabotaging Patterns 🔍Why It’s Important: You can’t fix what you can’t see. Many of our biggest struggles—procrastination, negative self-talk, toxic relationships—are just unconscious loops playing on repeat. You need to fully understand who you are right now and see what patterns you find yourself in. TRACKING WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE. And this doesn’t need to be extensive or time consuming. All you have to do is start to pay attention to yourself in a productive way. How do you speak to yourself in your quiet moments and in your busy moments? Is the voice in your of your mother that drags you down or lifts you up? Or maybe you find yourself trying to prove your worth to a teacher/friend who said you’d never amount to anything. You have to sit down with yourself and identify whose voice is who within you and what kind of talking is going to be helpful for you moving forward. Not only tracking how you talk to yourself but also your actions that you take each day. Do you find yourself thinking about your goals, maybe taking some action on them for a few days, to only wind up stopping and/or falling even more behind than where you started? Ask yourself why you stopped or what made you self sabotage. Was it calling forth an emotion that was too overwhelming to deal with so you shut down? Or did it feel too good and you simply don’t know how to deal with good feelings? (If this is the case, my heart breaks for you, sweet soul. Please read this guide on your vibrational frequency to help lift you out of this pain, you deserve more). Notice how you feel when you hang out with certain people, do they give you energy or take energy or are they more neutral? Do they help inspire positive change or want to keep you where you are or fall lower? Start to assess what is actually helping you move forward or what you like or healthy for you vs what’s keeping you the same or wanting you to sabotage yourself. ✨ How to Do This:
⚡ Step 2: Disrupt the Cycle (Before It Runs You) 🧠 Why It’s Important: Your brain craves the familiar, even if it’s destructive. To break the cycle, you must shock your system into seeing new possibilities. This can be tough to do and can be really scary. For me, I was challenged to go outside of my comfort zone by going up to some people in my martial arts class to see if they wanted to hang out sometime. Which to a lot of people, you might be thinking “what’s the big deal, you’re just talking to someone”. But for me and the days leading up to the class, I was nauseous and worried and constantly thinking about all the different ways that interaction would go down. I have a long string of traumatic life events in this area but through the work I’ve been doing with my therapist and journaling, I realized that I never asked anyone to hang out and waited for other people to come to me. Those people usually ended up being toxic types and since I’ve grown a lot through going on this journey of figuring out who I am and who I want to become, my ideal, I wanted to be the one to disrupt the cycle of waiting and instead see if I had the strength to do this. And I am so proud to say that I overcame my severe social anxiety and asked people to hang out. We haven’t yet but next class we are going to plan something. This was step one of my social goals and overcoming my anxiety! And even if they had said no or if we don’t hang out, I am still so happy because the first time doing something is going to be the worst because you have no idea who to handle it. But now that I have that one instance to draw on and evidence that I didn’t die (even though my body during the days leading up to it was sure I was going to lol) and that it’s not so bad. I proved to myself that I am capable of growing and I am worthy of growing. I now have less fear and nerves going up to people to see if we can potentially hang out because I know that it’s not such a big deal and I can finally relax around that. I am coming out with a guide soon on how I overcame my social anxiety so if interested, definitely sign up for our newsletter! 💡 How to Do This:
🌊 Step 3: Install Empowering Habits That Stick
🌀 Why It’s Important: It’s not enough to break bad habits—you must replace them with ones that light up your brain’s reward system. If you only take bad habits away without replacing them with good habits, then you leave space for something bad to fill the time up or fail at breaking that habit. For example, when I was quitting cannabis, I had developed a habit of smoking as soon as work was done and smoke until 2 hours before going to bed and then a lot on the weekends. I realized that the reason I wasn’t achieving or working towards my goals was because I would get too elevated and forget to do the work or lost any motivation to get up and work. Thankfully my goals and reasons were bigger than my desire to smoke because I realised I was sabotaging myself every time I smoked. (Which I’m not saying for you to stop if you do, live your life lol it was just becoming unhealthy for me in my life). But in order for me to make sure that I was going to break this habit, I needed to do something that would take my mind off wanting to smoke right after work. To do this, I took every single thing in my environment that would’ve reminded me or urged me to smoke and hid them or gave it away. So I wouldn’t have visual cues to be like “hey pretty lady, let’s chill and push off our anxiety by not working on it and then worrying about it 10x later” lol If I can’t see it, I usually forget about it after a while. Then after work I needed to replace that habit with something else. So I decided to walk on my little walking pad I got on Facebook Marketplace and watch some guilty pleasure shows. Then before bed, had a sweet treat as a reward for not smoking. And I replaced that bad behavior, again only speaking for myself, with a productive behavior that is giving me my life back. Habit-building isn’t about willpower; it’s about making your new patterns feel so good you never want to stop. 🛤️ How to Do This:
🚀 Step 4: Build Self-Trust Through Micro-Wins 🌟 Why It’s Important: Breaking old patterns isn’t about perfection—it’s about momentum. There are going to be days where you might mess up or “fail” and in those moments DO NOT just throw in the towel and give up on yourself. Do not mistake your courageous attempt at making your life better and “failing” at some action to mean you are a failure….JUST BECAUSE YOU FAIL AT SOMETHING DOES NOT MAKE YOU A FAILURE! It just means you might need to change something up to help get you closer to your goals. Continuing with the weed kicking habit, I did fail after trying it for a month when my sister came up to visit. She loves herself some of the good ol devils lettuce and up until that point we just always hung out and smoked. So when she was here I found myself taking an edible because it’s what we did and I felt guilty for not taking part. I instantly regretted it and felt like crap because I let myself down. But thankfully I’ve been working on changing myself and how I talk to myself and switched up how I was taking this. I instead saw this as further proof that I do want to kick this habit and need to take steps to make sure that I stay on this path. So the next morning, I restarted my days sober clock to zero but with new strength. I did take a break from hanging out with my sister for 2 months to just solidify my own resolve and I’m glad I did because I am INSANELY proud to say that after many years of being a daily toker, I am six months sober and going strong. It was tough the first few months, I’m not going to lie about that but since getting over the 3 month hump, every day just got easier and easier. This was an extremely hard habit to kick because it did become a part of my identity to a degree but you can change your identity whenever you want and one simple way to do that, is to change your habits and by using the rest of the guide below. Every small promise kept builds self-trust, the foundation of an empowered life. 💎 🎯 How to Do This:
🎇 Step 5: Make It a Lifestyle, Not a Phase 💖 Why It’s Important: Transformation isn’t about temporary motivation—it’s about becoming the kind of woman who naturally embodies the patterns of success, confidence, and purpose. 🌱 By changing up my day, my thoughts and my feelings, I slowly became a different person. Someone who shows up as her best version even on the hard days. I’m not saying I’m perfect and I know I never will be (because perfect doesn't exist) but that doesn’t stop my from trying my best because I know I’ll never reach my peak me by always waiting for “tomorrow”. I also know myself too well so I keep a little journal to track my thoughts and feelings to not only see any patterns that pop up (good and bad) to maintain my progress or to just see how I’m feeling. I’ve stopped a lot of goals because I realized that they simply weren’t for me even though I was certain about them before taking the actions to achieve that goal. While also helping me to remember why I want to stick with other goals and give myself motivation to push through the bad days. And as you’ll find out, a lot of your habits and patterns you find yourself in happen without thinking or needing to rely on willpower to do so, so focus on what patterns you want to be second nature. This is how you unlock success without any effort. You’ll never know for certain if something is meant to be until you try it out. And by trying it out, you develop self trust because you know you got you and your best interest at heart and gain confidence because you know you are putting in the work to be better. Because you don’t just get confidence from completing something, you get it on the journey of doing the things you don’t want to or what makes you nervous. And darling, confidence and self trust looks stunning on everyone! 🌿 How to Do This:
Conclusion: Your Life is Built on Patterns—Make Them Powerful🔥 The secret to empowerment isn’t magic—it’s mastering your patterns. Every thought you think, every action you take, every habit you reinforce either strengthens your power or weakens it. 🏆 The best part? You don’t need a complete overhaul to change your life. You just need to start with one new pattern today. 🎯 Your future self is waiting—and she’s thriving. 🌟 Will you meet her halfway? 🚀Ready to take control of your patterns and finally feel unstoppable? Drop a 🔥 in the comments and tell me one old pattern you’re breaking today—or join my free newsletter to start rewiring your life. Please know that I am so proud of you for taking the step to regain control over your life. Too many people let fear or insecurity lead their life BUT NOT YOU SWEET GODDESS! You can feel the little ember burning in you that desires more and knows that she can build her fire bigger and brighter. I believe in you so much and know that we are in this together! So let's stop waiting and let’s do this. 💖✨ Stay safe, stay happy and stay resilient. And until next time, peace! 💖Love Angel ✨ FAQs :
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