Who Are You Really? 5 Powerful Questions to Uncover Your True Self

The Cost of Not Knowing Yourself

Imagine this: You wake up every day feeling like something is missing. You check off society’s boxes—career, relationships, responsibilities—but deep down, you feel disconnected, uncertain, and unfulfilled.

You want more, but you don’t even know what "more" truly looks like for you.

Or you find yourself trying to become something more than you are right now. You take steps to better your life and reach new highs….but when you do, you somehow find yourself back at the bottom or sometimes even lower. 

I know I’ve been there. 

Whenever I achieved something massive or something to be proud of, I found myself, on some deep part of me, feeling like I wasn’t deserving of it and tried my best to destroy that feeling - from others and from myself. 

By not deeply understanding yourself and not having clarity on who you really are, you risk:

• Living life on autopilot, following someone else’s script.
• Settling for less than you deserve.
• Feeling stuck, frustrated, and unsure of your next move.
• Self Sabotaging when you feel or push past, what you on some level, feel like you aren’t deserving of. 

But here’s the truth: The life you crave is already within you—waiting for you to claim it.

The key? Radical self-discovery.

And don’t worry, I’m going to give 5 questions to help you dive into these waters with a life vest to uncover your hidden treasure within.

Why Doing This Work Changes EverythingThe most powerful thing a woman can do is to know herself.

When you truly understand who you are, you gain the power to:

• Make bold, aligned decisions without second-guessing yourself.
• Build confidence that radiates from within.
• Create a life that feels as good as it looks—because it's built for YOU.
• Healing the parts of you that want to keep you small and in your trauma built “place”.

This journey starts with asking yourself the right questions.

Let’s dive in.

The 5 Powerful Questions to Uncover Your True Self

DISCLAIMER TIP : ***If you find these questions hard to answer, try answering them in the negative to see what you DON’T want. It can be easier to narrow in when you eliminate paths that you know you don’t want. And sometimes what you don’t want is the exact opposite of what you actually want. For example, for a job, say you know you definitely don’t want to be in person and want to be remote - that means you can eliminate all in person jobs that can’t be done remotely (you can’t be a construction worker and be remote lol).

1. What Do I Truly Desire—Outside of Expectations? - If I could have anything, what would it be and look like? 

Why It Matters:

Most of us have been conditioned to want what we’ve been told to want—but is that what lights your soul on fire?

Does what you are pursuing make you smile or have a sense of calm? If it isn’t, then let’s dig into what you truly want.  

Getting real about your deepest desires helps you break free from societal molds and craft a life that actually fulfills you.

And to do this, you have to disregard everything you know about what’s normal around you. 

Just to quickly touch base on the negative version of this if that’s easier for you, ask “what do I truly NOT desire? What is something that I never want to have and what does that look like? What is the opposite of that? Does that bring me closer to what I truly desire?

For me, I was pushing the boundaries of what was expected of me by going to college to become an engineer and be in the military. For my family, that was something that you simply didn’t do.

You stayed in your hometown and you did service work to get knocked up and live life in a trauma fueled poverty panic induced hell. It’s just simply what you do. 

You don’t go to college because we aren’t smart enough or have the money to make it. You don’t go into the military, you get into fights on the streets to protect your ego. 

But thankfully I was aware enough when I was younger to see that the life they wanted for me was not one I wanted and forced myself to go out of my comfort zone and demand more. 

Was my major something that set my soul on fire? Absolutely not lmao I wasn’t that aware but I am now and trying to choose what I want in life today.

So start by asking what is something that makes you a little excited or nervous or thinking “I could never be/have/look/feel like that”? 

If so, ask why do you feel like that?

How to Dig Deeper:

Ask: “If no one would judge me, what would I truly want for my life?”

Think as big and bold as you can to see how you emotionally respond.

Then visualize your ideal day—how do you spend your time, and what fills you with joy?

You can find examples of “day in my life” videos all over the web for inspiration if you’re not sure.


2. When Have I Felt Most Alive? - Why or what made me feel like that?

Why It Matters:

The moments that make you feel alive, present, and electric hold the secret to your purpose.

These moments often reveal your passions, strengths, and unique gifts.

For me personally, this took awhile to figure out. I conditioned myself to be “grounded” and to get things done to survive — not to “feel” alive.

But feeling alive is what makes you human. We all need that jolt of energy coursing through our veins every now and then. 

To help you figure this out, think of when your heart was pumping and your energy heightened – in a good way! 

Were you at a concert swaying in the energy of those around you?Or were you at a quiet cafe working among other focused people smelling the deep aroma of coffee in the air? Or was it when you were reading on swing one sunny afternoon feeling the sun and sweet gentle wind kissing your face?

If you find yourself not having something come to mind - which, give yourself some time to ponder it, it took me two months for it to randomly pop into my head on a long drive the other day - start to go do things that you think might create that feeling within you. 

You might not have had the chance to really experience this feeling in a good way and that’s ok. 

Go out and try some things with time afterwards to reflect on your feelings during the activity. 

How to Dig Deeper:

Think about the last time you felt completely in the flow--what were you doing, and why did it energize you?

What activities make you lose track of time?

3. What Limiting Beliefs Are Holding Me Back? - What beliefs am I unaware of? 

Why It Matters:

• Your beliefs create your reality—if you’re stuck, chances are, outdated beliefs are running the show.
• The key to unlocking your potential is identifying and rewriting the stories that no longer serve you.

There are so many limiting beliefs that are planted into so many of us from society, our parents, our friends and experiences. 

Many go unnoticed because you just accepted them and thought of them as law. 

That is not the case sweet soul!

You are LIMITLESS and can create anything you put your full force towards when it aligns with your skills and identity. 

But you have to take inventory of your identity right now. 

What do you believe about yourself in good ways and bad ways?
Why do you think like that? Was it something said to you when you were younger or something you simply assumed? 

Look into your beliefs and see if they are true or not. Who can you look up that has your same story that contradicts your current belief? I bet there is someone who is doing something that you didn’t think you could do who has a similar story. 

NEXT WEEK'S GUIDE is going deeper into figuring out what your limiting beliefs are if this is confusing or difficult for you and how to change them so sign up for the newsletter to know when it drops!

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Remember that you are worthy of everything that you want in this life.

You are strong enough to allow success and love and beauty into your world.

All you have to do is the work and it will be yours!

I have complete faith in you and cheering for you to become whoever it is you truly want to be.

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How to Dig Deeper:

• Ask: “What’s one thing I’ve always wanted to do but haven’t? What fear or excuse has held me back?”
• Write down your biggest self-doubts, then challenge them: “Is this actually true, or is it just a story I’ve been told?”

4. Who Am I When No One Is Watching? - And furthermore who do I want to be when no one is watching?

​Why It Matters:

Who you are in your quietest moments—away from expectations and obligations—is your truest self.

Are you someone who is hopeful? Or do you find yourself daydreaming of better days or reliving nightmares? 

Do you find yourself wanting to help others more or focused on how people have wronged you? 

Are you consumed with the idea of you not living up to someone else's expectations or trying to grapple with the fact that you aren’t happy with what you are pursuing?

There’s this saying that goes “we don’t rise to the standards we have when others are watching, we FALL to the standards we have when no one is watching” — how far are you willing to fall?

This is where your authenticity lives, waiting to be fully embraced.

Take the chance to go inward and see what your soul is trying to tell you. 

How to Dig Deeper:

• Ask: “If I had nothing to prove, who would I allow myself to be?”
• Reflect on what brings you joy, even if no one else understands it.

5. What Legacy Do I Want to Leave Behind? - How do I want people to feel about me?

Why It Matters:

• Thinking about the legacy you want to create gives your life direction, meaning, and purpose.
• You don’t need to change the world overnight—but your impact, big or small, matters.

Have you ever had someone come into your life, can be for a while or maybe for just a second, that had an impact in your life in a wonderful or dramatic way?

They helped change your mood or your current state of feeling/being or gave you the right advice that changed your life?

Or maybe someone you see on socials who is making movements in areas that you find yourself wanting to help and create that change with them? 

Or maybe have you seen the damage and pain that negative people inflict on those around you and you know you never want to do that kind of damage?

By having something bigger than you to work towards or away from, gives you a better direction in life to head towards and raises your self confidence and respect. 

You can give yourself peace and hope on the bad days when you feel low, to point to what you are doing for others that proves that you actually are a good person. Because you have examples of you doing just that. 

If you want people to feel empowered after being around you, think of ways to live your life that would cause that reaction. It could be you fearlessly pursuing your dreams or standing up for yourself or them. 

There are so many ways to create a feeling in someone else. 

Having that simple act to work towards is something that is equally selfless and selfish. 

You help others - even if it’s just making sure that you are giving your children a better life than the one you had or helping someone pick up their groceries that fell - and by doing that, you help yourself see that you are worthy of living a wonderful life. —-which you already are btw!

How to Dig Deeper:

• Ask: “If I could be remembered for ONE thing, what would it be?”
• What values do I want to embody daily, starting now?

Conclusion: Your Truth Is Your Superpower

• Now that you’ve asked these questions, don’t stop here.
• Self-discovery is an ongoing journey--the more you embrace who you are, the more magnetic, confident, and unstoppable you become.
• You are not here to live a life that is fine—you are here to live a life that is fully expressed, wildly fulfilling, and completely YOURS.
• And if you want to continue this journey to craft your ideal you - read this next!

Take the Next Step!
✨ Your Turn: Grab a journal, write down your answers, and let yourself be bold, raw, and honest.
💬 Let’s Talk: Drop a comment--what’s one insight you gained from these questions?
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I hope you have a blessed day!

Love ~Angel